*_SECRETS & DISCLOSURES | 9 FEBRUARY 2025_* *Topics* • He wants to marry me but needs me to loan him the money for lobola • He's coming to pay lobola but I lied that I have 1 child yet I have 4 • My brother came looking for a job, now he has brought a sex worker to live with us — — — — — — — — — — — — *FOR DAILY NEWS UPDATES* *_Join our Group:_* https://chat.whatsapp.com/CmpnkkokGOsIjQZdSBo5N1 *TO ADVERTISE WITH WAZO ADVERTS* *_WhatsApp:_* wa.me/263776804293 *_We have a market reach of over 400,000 Zimbabweans._* — — — — — — — — — — — — *HE WANTS TO MARRY ME BUT NEEDS ME TO LOAN HIM THE MONEY FOR LOBOLA* Dear Amai, I hope I find you well. I am a single lady aged 24 with a degree and gainfully employed. I am madly in love with a guy who claims to be self-employed. However, he never explains what he really does for a living. I have tried to start that conversation several times but he always avoids it. He is very streetwise, making it difficult to pin him down. Most of the calls he receives are about unserviced debts. He is known as “the hustler” in some circles. He says I am the love of his life and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He wants to pay lobola but says he wants me to loan him the funds. I have the money but I am torn apart because I am not sure how I will recover the funds from him. I know of a schoolmate who did that and was never reimbursed. They are now divorced. Amai, please help. What should I do? — — — — — — — — — — — — *HE'S COMING TO PAY LOBOLA BUT I LIED THAT I HAVE 1 CHILD YET I HAVE 4* Hi. Please keep me anonymous. His uncles are coming to pay lobola this weekend. We have been dating for 8 months and I told him I only have one kid and he's okay with it. The truth is I have 4 kids. When I lied I didn't know things were gonna get serious. He is paying lobola because we just found out that I'm pregnant and he wants us to raise our kids together. I don't know whether to tell him the truth or not. My parents do not know I lied to him. I have an uncle that doesn't have brakes on his mouth. I know he will ask my man's family if they know I have 4 kids from three different fathers. I'm so stressed right now. Please advise me. — — — — — — — — — — — — *MY BROTHER CAME LOOKING FOR A JOB, NOW HE HAS BROUGHT A SEX WORKER TO LIVE WITH US* Amai, how are you? I am 29 and single. I stay in an apartment in the central business district. My younger brother came from our rural home to look for employment in the city. My parents ordered I stay with him yet I am struggling financially. My sibling has hardly spent a month here but he is already seeing a woman older than me; she has even eloped. My place is very small and it is uncomfortable to have a stranger here as well. She is a lady of the night and I really do not understand her. When she sees me, all she says is that I should ask my brother because he knows the truth. I told my parents about this and they said they do not want to hear about it. They do not want this woman anywhere near our rural home. Amai, how do I solve this? I am very upset.