👆 When I tell young men to treat women how they ought to be treated and not how they wish to be treated, some of you do not get it. Please read this DM from a married man of 6 years. This is a man that has been solely responsible for his family of two children. It's easy foranyone to estimate the ages of their children. The eldest should not be more than 5, and the youngest is under 5. Tell me... How can a mother of two children, whose husband has been providing for them, say that she's depressed? I know that we have clinical depression, but isthis the case here, or a wife who wants to be "free" because she feels "caged" in her home? Instead of her to seize the opportunity that her loving husband provided for her, she wants to be going out to "explore", at the expense of the well-being of her kids and home. He evenoffered to give her 2m to start a business, but she declined with the excuse that she prefers a "structured" environment. And she accused this same husband of not loving her anymore, despite all he is doing for her. Now, he decided to do her bidding, and under few months, theso called "depressed" wife is now misbehaving. Disrespecting her husband by flirting with small boys and even allowing one of her boys to drive her husband's car. Now, she has become bold and unruly. And he's paying dearly for it. Anyways, I blame you the man. You stillhave a lot to learn in dealing with women. And I hope you will still be able to salvage your marriage. First, tell your wife that she will no longer continue the hotel work. And that should be with immediate effect. Tell her that if she goes against your orders, she shouldstart going to the hotel from her father's house. And if she does that, do not go to her father's house to discuss anything. If the father calls you, tell him that your people will come and meet his people. And that you no longer recognize the wife that you married, and thatyour wife has brought disgrace to you, & you no longer feel safe with her. Say it to him with a very strong voice and damn the consequences. Even the polytechnic job, tell her that she'll no longer be doing it. She should sit at home and take care of the home and children.And yes, I agree with you that you were belittled by your wife in the presence of her father. You need to reassess your behavior as a man. Because for your wife to be so bold and disrespectful to you, it means that you're showing many signs of weakness and she doesn't seeyou as someone with the firmness to be her head. So change your ways. Show her that you're a man and do not burge. Telling your wife repeatedly to block a small boy or boys, or to delete pictures shows weakness. She sees you as competing with small boys over her. And she hasdared you many times, and you did nothing. By the time you take serious decisions, even her father will support you. Because as a man, he must have seen that his daughter is not showing you respect, but there is not much he could do, than what he did. It's now up to you. End.