I was very busy when a brother called me saying: "I need to see you urgently, Sheikh." "Forgive me, brother, but I'm extremely busy... let's leave it for tomorrow." "I want to divorce my wife!" "Allahul Must'an! Alright, I'll come to you shortly." When I arrived, I asked him, "What's going on with your wife?" "Sheikh, she's extremely negligent! Imagine that I came home today exhausted and hungry... She served me a dish of okra, and it was cold, and the rice was cold too! I called her and said: 'I work hard all day to come home to cold food? Is this how you respect me and my efforts?!' And the children, too, they look disheveled... she doesn't take care of their appearance! Their undershirts are sticking out of their pants, their faces have food stains, and they go to my mother's house looking like this! I can't take it anymore! I asked him: "Does your wife pray?" He said: "Even in this, there's a problem. She's inconsistent with her prayers." "You deserve what your wife is doing to you!" "Why, Sheikh?" "Because you care about your own rights and neglect the rights of Allah! You got angry over the cold dish of okra and the disheveled look of your children, but you didn't get angry over your wife's negligence of prayer, even though you know that 'each of you is a shepherd, and each of you is responsible for his flock.' You didn't remember her negligence of prayer until I asked you. If you had instilled reverence for Allah's rights in her, He would have honored your rights in her heart, but you neglected it, so she neglected it. Go to her tonight and say: 'Listen, my dear, I don't want anything from you for myself, and I won't argue with you over my personal rights. There is only one matter between us: that you commit to your prayers, because I can't live with someone whose faith is in question due to neglecting prayer.' And be careful not to say to her: 'Prayer, and the dish of okra, and the kids' clothes!' But focus on prayer, and only prayer at this stage." Our friend did as I advised, and after some time, he sent me a kind message saying that he and his wife pray for me during the night prayers. We ask Allah for their continued affection and guidance. It's unbecoming of us to prioritize petty concerns; demanding respect from others while neglecting to invite them to honor Allah's right. The key to solving many marital problems, and people's problems among themselves in general, is this: Exalt the rights of Allah and make it your cause that endears people to you, even if they wrong you or disregard your rights. Then, He the Exalted will honor your rights in their hearts. And don't be a person of misplaced priorities!" 📝𝐃𝐫. 𝐄𝐲𝐚𝐝 𝐐𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐢𝐛𝐢