*Summary of Brotherhood Night – Gender-Based Session* *Lecture: "The Psychology of Anger" by Ustadh Mas'ud Adigun* Anger is a natural human emotion that arises when we feel threatened, frustrated, or treated unfairly. While everyone experiences anger differently, how we handle it determines whether it leads to growth or harm. *Understanding Anger* What is Anger? Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure, often triggered by frustration, hurt, or injustice. *Anger vs. Aggression:* Anger is an emotion, while aggression is acting on that emotion in a harmful way. *Common Triggers:* Insults, stress, disappointment, rejection, embarrassment, jealousy, grief, and low self-esteem can all spark anger. *How Anger Shows Up* Anger Styles: People express anger in different ways—some lash out, some bottle it up, and others take it out on others. *Physical Signs:* Clenched fists, sweating, raised voice, racing heartbeat, tense muscles, and trouble focusing. *Hidden Emotions:* Anger often masks deeper feelings like fear, shame, or feeling unappreciated. *Consequences of Uncontrolled Anger* If left unchecked, anger can lead to broken relationships, stress-related health problems (ulcers, high blood pressure, headaches), legal trouble, and emotional struggles like depression and anxiety. *Managing Anger Effectively* Calm Yourself First: Walk away, take deep breaths, count to 10, or imagine a peaceful place. *Process Your Feelings:* Write down your thoughts, talk to someone, or reflect before reacting. *Channel Your Energy:* Exercise, solve the problem, or accept what you can’t change. *Recognize What You Can Control:* Focus on your own actions, not others’ behavior. *The Right Way to Handle Anger* *Recognize Triggers:* Anger often stems from unfair situations, feeling powerless, or unresolved issues. *Regain Balance:* Identify what’s making you angry, breathe deeply, and take a break. *Find the Root Cause:* Ask yourself what deeper need is being unmet—respect, attention, fairness? *Take Action:* Address the issue calmly and constructively. *Let Go and Forgive:* Forgiveness frees you from anger, even if you don’t excuse bad behavior. *Healthy vs. Unhealthy Anger* If anger leads to grudges, hatred, or revenge, it’s harming you. If it helps you grow, repair relationships, and find peace, you’re handling it well. Mastering anger isn’t about never getting angry—it’s about responding in a way that protects your peace and strengthens your relationships. ©️ *MSSN UNILAG EDITORIAL BOARD 24/25*