`QUARRELLING NEVER SOLVES A PROBLEM` *Proverbs 21:19 NIV* _"Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife."_ One of key skills leaders should get abraced with from time to time is `the skill of apt communication.` Leaders like the rest, are human, they have emotions and feelings. Wise people are selective and patient in seeking to get their needs addressed. They seek for the right season, the right moment and the right opportunity. And yet the unwise people, often front the question of rights and the sense of entitlement first, disregarding the feelings and emotions of others. This has often complicated service. And so, when the question of rights and entitlement; feelings and people's emotions are not addressed, quarrelling and discord results. I believe, our text is speaking a masculine Voice painting the following pictures; Firstly, the speaker is demonstrating a dislike he has towards a forceful and heartless communication that disregards his emotional need for quietness Secondly, he expresses absence from such environment as a means of relief. > I believe, as an answer to both men and women, in regards to communication; no matter how you feel and how urgent one needs to communicate, the following scriptural rules are very key to enable harmony in communication. Firstly, whether people are wrong or right, one should always bear in their mind human being are created with diginity. Whether small or big person; No one takes it lightly to swallow communication that strips them of their diginity! Secondly, always seek to produce a positive effect with your communication- _be an agent of life- not death;_ No one celebrates or enjoys an atmosphere where death looms over the house or area!! Paul told the Ephesians that, they _"Don’t (have to) use foul or abusive language. Let everything (they) you say be good and helpful, so that (their) your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them."_ *•Ephesians 4:29 NLT* Thirdly, deal with wrong motivations in your speech. If your heart is not in order avoid talking! According to Paul, whether we are wrong and right, our motivations matter; _"...all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you,"_ *•Ephesians 4:31-32) NLT* `In Conclusion,` women who seem to nag and quarrel do so because of discontentment or having some sense of entitlement, and men who run away from home, and come late to avoid quarrelling, do so, to maintain their dignity and tranquility. So, what is the take away 1. We need to `be patient` with one another. 2. `If one door [to deliver your point] isn't working,` trust God for another door, instead of quarrelling every night. 3. `Make it a principle in all your communication,` to follow Apostle James advice, _"So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God,_ *(James 1:19-20).* God bless you! `✒️WRITTEN BY:` Pr. David Emazu, Onialeku _Elim Pentecostal Church, Arua City, Uganda._