To understand just how pained my guy was, imagine this—we could be talking about something completely random, like building solutions, and out of nowhere, he’d just go: "Somebody's daughter stepped on stage and won a whole competition by starting with—‘My name is, and I was raped when I was...’" (Not the exact way she started, but you get the gist. The memory of his devastated expression is a little blurry now, but trust me, the pain was real.) Then he’d shake his head hotly, exhale sharply, and say: "Noooooo! If I see that girl at another competition, ehn…!"