"Sincerity is indispensable if we are to achieve greater union with God. If you have an ugly “toad” inside you, my son, let it out! As I have always advised you, the first thing you must mention is what you wouldn’t like anybody to know. Once the “toad” has been let out in Confession — how well one feels!" From point 193 of "Defeat" in St. Josemaría's book The Forge. Link: https://escriva.org/en/forja/193/