To the Muslim women trying to change their lives... As you grow older you realize all the clichés are haqq! ▪️The early bird catches the worm. I'm waking up at 4am and my productivity is off the charts! Alhumdulillah. What I get done by 12noon in terms of swimming, workout/walking, watching lectures, chores, Quran is insane, making checklists. There is immense unmeasurable barakah in the morning. I shutdown by 10pm automatically and I'm awake by 4am. It takes 2 days to 4 days to get into this habit. Just don't nap alot in the afternoon and no doom scrolling after 8pm. Buy an alarm clock if you are a phone addict. I have friends who keep their phones in kitchen drawers from 8pm to 12noon to beat addiction. [I am still struggling with few goals, I am not perfect but way better than I was before] ▪️Money can't buy happiness. I don't have the kind of money I did when I was working and SubhanAllah you realize 9 to 5 isn't for everyone and more money doesn't always mean more happiness [sincere duas and respect for Muslim women and men who HAVE to work]. Esp in the capitalistic times. More money means more stress. And that spending time with family esp children, cooking, reading a book, resting well, having time to reflect and grow is where true happiness lies. ▪️Actions speak louder than words. People will say alot of things but in the end what they do is what matters. Talk is cheap. Pay attention to people who actually help you and not the ones who speak big pompous words and fail in helping you when you really need it. Examples: 💕So a boss can praise you to the heavens and above at work but when you ask for an appraisal it's all crickets. 💕A husband can make promises of love but you ask him to get off phone and help with dishes or spend quality time crickets. 💕A friend can call you her bestie but ask her to help you with children, or finding a job or to have a heart to heart crickets. You get my drift? ▪️What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You think you cannot live without someone or something untill you do. And you realize how wrong that person, that situation was for you. ▪️You have to keep busy. Busy resting, busy with a goal, busy repenting, busy with a new hobby, busy making memories. Busy with something beautiful and pleasing to Allah. Because when you are not busy doing the right things in life. Shaytan will keep you busy with the wrong things - victim mentality, blaming others, gossiping, haraam entertainment. Always and everyday ask yourself. Is life happening to you or are you making life happen for you? 🤲 Ya Allah grant us the best of duniya, the best of akhira and protect us from the punishment of fire - ameen.