MASTURBATION AND MEN Alot of men struggle with masturbation. Masturbation can easily make you a loner and ruin your communication and relational skills with others, including your partner since you get lost in your world and make you not need someone. Masturbation can hurt your wife as she begins to doubt how attractive she is to you since your prefer pleasing yourself. It can also make you use women where you sex chat multiple women on the phone to get them to talk dirty with you or send you sexy pictures, videos and nudes to get you hard so that you masturbate. Masturbation trains your mind that pleasure is that you receive through your hand as opposed to that you receive from a vagina, so that by the time you and your wife get to have sex, you may not enjoy her vagina as much. Sex starts in the mind. What you train your mind your mind will accept. HOW TO OVERCOME MASTURBATION 1. Accept that you are a sexual person, you have a high libido. Thank God for that, you are healthy. Having sexual urges is healthy 2. Have a vision for your life. Masturbation tends to make you focus on the hear and now, but when you have a purpose to pursue in life, it keeps you disciplined and busy 3. Forgive yourself. Masturbation has made many feel dirty and ashamed 4. Each time you look at yourself naked, pray. Pray audibly at a volume only you can hear. Pray thanking God for your health and physique, mention your body parts . Turn your nudity to an opportunity to pray 5. When you get horny, channel the energy to something productive. Learn the principle of delayed gratification 6. Fill your bedroom with worship music to activate your spirit and bring down your arousal 7. Keep good hygiene, dress well, shower, smell good. Take care of your body so that you feel good about yourself 8. Do not feed your lust. No porn, no storing nudes in your phone or exchanging nudes with chat mates, no entertaining yourself with songs or movies that cheapen sex. Raise the standard of what you consume 9. Watch the company you keep. Keep off people who have a loose view about sex, those people who talk about casual sex like it's something to glorify, those who justify unfaithfulness and promiscuity. Bad company corrupts good morals 10. Work on identity. Masturbation to many has a way on denting the self-esteem. Keep affirming yourself and who you are 11. Enhance your social life, spend less time alone. Masturbation thrives in isolation. People who masturbate alot tend to struggle in making face to face connections and thrive on chasing after sexual online connections that go no where. They tend to even stay single longer because they are self sufficient or act single yet married 12. Serve God and people more. Have little time in your hands to use your hands if you know what I mean 13. Ask God to help you to do this. The Holy Spirit is your Helper 14. In case you do fall into masturbation after staying away from it for awhile, get back up and continue the journey of fighting it. Many relapse back into what they want to stop because they are ashamed they fell. Overcoming is a process 15. Let this personal struggle teach you about God's grace; that your relationship with God is not based on what you do or don't do but who you are becoming because of God's work in you 16. Stop yourself from clicking on controversial and sexual links on the internet telling you about women with the biggest booty, the men with the biggest penis, you won't believe what is so and so's best sex position, watch this celebrity's sex tape, watch this mama twerk... clicking on such links will take you to more internet pages that will sexually excite you 17. If single, imagine love making in future in your marriage. Have something to look forward to 18. Anytime you find yourself sexually attracted to someone that you don't intend to commit to, pray for them. That way you will start to see see them for more than a sexual tease 19. Have an accountability partner to report to. A volunteer you trust who will be asking you if you masturbated that week. Give yourself success stories, once you go for a month, two months, three without doing it, it will empower you If you need help feel free to contact me 🙏