*DON’T JUST REPEAT WHAT YOU HEAR* The world is loud, no doubt. But louder doesn’t mean right. Everywhere you turn, there’s a new opinion about love, marriage, and relationships. And most of them are born from pain, frustration, or culture, BUT not the truth. We're not ignorant of these things, we've heard it time and again. People say all manner of things... “Men are scum.” “Marriage is a scam.” "All men are the same." “Good women don’t exist.” "Men will stain your white." "You can't trust a woman nowadays." And the list goes on and on. But let me remind you, just because something is trending doesn’t make it true. Deep down, we all are yearning for this love, just that most people don't know how to go about it. You can't follow the wrong process to arrive at the right answer. All the people pushing these narratives, is that what the word of God says about men and women? You're either a man or woman, so what are you saying? Now, what baffles me the most is that some of the people echoing these things and parading the narrative haven't experienced it first hand. They heard people who shared their experiences and adopted it, now they're spreading it like it's their experience. And even some that have experienced it in such magnitude, I understand that it's painful, BUT it's not your experience that will give validation to the word of God. It has to be the other way round. 💯 You weren’t called to echo what the world says. You were called to echo what God said. God’s voice still speaks louder, if you’ll listen. His Word still stands, no matter how many people walk away from it. His design for love, marriage, and wholeness still works. The fact that others failed at it doesn’t mean it’s broken. It means people tried to do God’s thing their own way and that never ends well. Can you say that truly you were bitten by the serpent but the hedge wasn't broken by you? Why can't you move on after the break up? Sincerely speaking, why can't you really move on, it's been a while, why are you still stuck? It's not in all cases, but lemme tell you something. When people say "after everything I've done for you" after a break up, especially ladies, if you check very well, the details contains emotional investments with a bias towards physical intimacy. People feel broken when they invest themselves in a relationship, not really the things, and you know what I mean by that. Don’t let the noise of today's "normal" drown out the truth of God. You can have a godly relationship. You can have a peaceful home. You can experience love that’s real, deep, and lasting. But you have to believe again. And you have to build according to His blueprint, not social media’s. If you do it anyhow, you'll see it anyhow. Let God’s Word be your loudest influence. Let His voice shape your desires. Let that be your standard. His truth is enough. His promises still stand. And yes, His kind of love still wins. It's not to restrict you, it's to protect you. If God says it's good, forget your experience, do it the way He prescribed and you'll get your desired results. This is just a counsel and you can do with it as you please 🙏🏾 *_COACH HERBERT ✍️_*