*TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN* Happy National Heroes' day. I know I am going to receive a lot of backlash after saying this but let me say it anyway. *Girls, stop getting involved with married men.* What's the rush for? You can't really waste your potential as a young woman by being a side chic, it's so not worth it. Relationships aren't the end and beginning of life, there is so much more to life than that. You cause someone's husband to cheat and what makes you think you will not be cheated on by your husband in future. Karma doesn't forget, and even if you don't believe in Karma, God keeps note. And besides, the effects of these kinds of relationships have a spill over effect even to the kids you could have with that man. Imagine your kids having to grow up with an emotionally absent father who barely provides and you having to say all these bad things about the father yet it was your fault from the very beginning. I have seen these things happen to people I know and thus I speak this from a point of intense observation. You choose to become a co-wife in your twenties? Really? Are you that desperate?🥲 Banae know your worth. And many times, it's you who has to play the bigger part of the relationship gymnastics to keep it alive, remember you are the desperate one for that man's money and partial affection. Why choose such a life when you could be patient for better and more long lasting opportunities. You will lose out on good opportunities not only men, but also other good life opportunities because of playing a hide and seek relationship. Don't think that just because he is buying you all those things he is eventually going to Gashumba you, that's like a one in a million chance, the other 999,999 end up living unfulfilled lives because of that short termist mindset. Hate me all you want but it's the truth. Recognize your worth and you will attract the right opportunities. You pollute your aura by settling for low quality relationships, you end up resonating with such relationships because that's the energy you have built around yourself. You end up attracting people who just use you to blow off some steam, really? In your prime you are just an extra accessory? Anyway, people have free will and autonomy but true autonomy lies in making informed decisions.