Poi let me get this off my chest. My father hasn't been the best dad. See I grew up in a middle class house hold and my father could afford everything we needed but our home never had love. My father has 3 wives with more that 10 children. He was verbally and emotionally abusive to both my mother and us as children. He never really beat any of us but he would abuse us with big words ( imagine a f*** words to a 5 yr old more over in luganda ) he would quarrel at one person every night for like 3 months just because of one mistake, calling him names and cursing him... It was hell 😭. To the point that home was no longer home 😭 The good thing He paid tuition for all of us and some are still studying and he still supports us with tuition and rent but you have to work in order to get upkeep because he doesn't provide that. I am a girl who has had to work multiple jobs and hustles to get upkeep for myself through out campus ( which Iam okay with ). Poi many things our father has said and they have hurt us. Like one time he called me prostitute 😨. He used to curse and abuse us mbu mbwa gwe olifaa ozuunga. Imagine your father telling you that. Ffenna netumukyawa 😠, poi our self esteem like forexample my sister was just 14 and she fell sick malaria... She was even still a virgin but my dad was on her neck saying she is pretending and she is pregnant or has HIV from older men. Ofcos it wasn't true. This hurt me as well because we are all good kids, all serious with school and Godly staff. and non of us is all over this "men" thing . In summery Our father has not been a good father and neither has he been a good husband to our mother. He has cheated on my mother countless times with campasers and all types of women but my mother has remained faithful and patient. In our family we all just see him there but non is his friend. Father in recent years has been growing old and starting to change. He is now becoming softer, speaking calmly, calling me and my siblings asking us to visit him, asking why we don't call him. ( Btw previously I would spend 6 months without calling him because every time I would call he would ask me """ what do you want so I stopped. """) now last month my mother suggested that we collect some ka money to buy a gift for fathers day for daddy( for the first time). I have been texting all my siblings but non of them is interested and they all don't want. Poi since last month non of them has sent me any money for the gift. The day is Saturday but non is willing to collect any money for him. Even when I understand that my dad made mistakes Poi I believe he still deserves love.💓 And now he is growing old and becoming weak....entering his 70s. i want my siblings to forgive Dad but I don't know what to do. I feel like we need a real family meeting to air out these issues. Our father gave us tuition but was never a loving father. To all men who are / soon becoming fathers, it's not just about proving, proving is the bare minimum. You need to love your children, support them and be their first love. I sign out