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Feelings! Feeling is the act of emotional sensitivity, it is lustful and sometimes selfish. This is one of the reasons it is never stable but comes and go. Emotional feeling is good for personality but it is too weak to give a positive result when it comes to relationships or marriage. A relationship controls or builds on feelings will experience more eye services and hypocrisy. It is called love is always conditional. That is love attached to something. Many people hardly differentiate true love from emotional feelings. They are ignorant of the forces controlling them if it is true love or emotional feelings. Even a person with a positive mission when under the influence of feelings alone will certainly break the heart of his/her partner one day. This is simply because the feelings always come and go. The emotional feelings of many ladies these days which they called love is attached to money and material things while that of the men is attached to sex. This is while there are more results of hopeless relationships and unsuccessful marriages. I am 100% certain that some of the people reading this write-up have experienced or are victims of what I am saying. Beauty, money, sexual activeness, family background, status, nature of the job, etc can activate emotional feelings but not true love. True love can only be built on godliness while emotional feelings are fleshy and are built on worldliness. It is the act of satisfying the flesh. In a relationship, a person that threatened to break up with you because you denied sex or were unable to meet up a financial need is certainly under the force of lustful emotional feelings and not love. Or After unmeasurable sexual pleasures or financial and material things were given away, you were still dumped for another person, which indicates the person has exhausted his/her feelings for you. When making relationship decisions such as proposing or accepting a proposal make sure you are not just influenced by emotional feelings but love. True Love suffers long and is kind; True love does not envy; True love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; True love does not behave rudely; True love does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; True love does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; True love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. True Love never fails. A relationship or marriage built on feelings or lust is like a house built on the sandy ground. It will surely collapse sooner or later.
Rebuilding Trust The true-life story of a Texas wife and mom who started making an income by working as a prostitute. Her double life was finally brought to light when the brothel was raided by police and her secrets were exposed. Her husband was disgusted and shocked, and she was eventually abandoned by everyone she loved. You might think that kind of provocative storyline only happens on TV, but the Bible has a similar story, but with a much better ending! The Bible's version is about a man named Hosea and a wife named Gomer. Hosea loved his wife unconditionally, and that was put to the test when she abandoned her husband and family to return to her old life of prostitution. By the time Hosea found out, they'd had several children, and he wasn't sure if any of them were biologically his. To make matters even worse, her crimes had landed her in prison, and based on the laws of the day, her next step was to be sold into slavery to repay her debts. Hosea had every earthly right to write her off and leave her to the fate she had created for herself, but God had a different plan. God wanted to use this whole situation to show the amazing grace and unimaginable love he has for us even in those moments when we are completely unworthy. God moved Hosea's heart toward forgiveness and compassion. Hosea went to that slave auction and took most of his life's savings to purchase back his wife. Based on the culture's legal system, she now would have had no rights at all. He would have had all the power in the relationship, and he could have used it to punish her for the rest of her life. Knowing this, she bowed her head to him and called him, "Master." What happened next is one of the most beautiful displays of grace ever recorded. In essence, he looked at her and said, "Never call me your master. I am your husband." He gave up his rights to punish, control, or humiliate her, and instead, he welcomed her home as his wife. This simple but powerful act of forgiveness shows us a beautiful picture of the unmerited grace and love God offers to us all. I'm not sure how trust has been broken in your relationships, and I'm not advocating that you give your loved ones a free pass to break your heart, because a healthy relationship must be built on trust, accountability, and mutual respect. My hope is simply that this story will open your mind and your heart a little wider to let more love and grace flow into your life. If we deserved forgiveness, it wouldn't be called grace. If we could earn it, it wouldn't be real love. That type of radical forgiveness doesn’t seem humanly possible, but it is possible through the grace Christ has extended to each of us. Forgiveness sets you free and makes healing possible in the relationship. It’s been said, “Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and then hoping the other person dies.” Some couples get stuck in a cycle of grudges and mistrust because they wrongly assume that forgiveness and trust are the same things. We must understand their distinctions. Forgiveness can’t be earned; it can only be given freely. That’s why it’s called grace. Trust, however, can’t be given freely; it can only be earned. When your spouse breaks your trust, you should give your forgiveness instantly, but give your trust slowly as it is earned through consistency of actions. During this period of rebuilding, fight the urge to punish or retaliate. Those actions won’t do anything to promote healing, and healing always needs to be our ultimate objective. Love, after all, is a healing force. You don’t have to trust someone to forgive, but you do have to forgive someone to make trust possible again. The process of rebuilding trust might be slow and it might be painful, but it’s worth it! Once you worked through your issues and reestablished trust, your relationship can become stronger and more vibrant than it ever was before.
COMPARISON What a profound truth! Nothing is better and unique until you start to compare to others. This phenomenon is rooted in human psychology, and it's essential to understand its implications on our lives. When we don't compare, we tend to appreciate and enjoy what we have, who we are, and the experiences we're having. Our unique qualities, skills, and strengths shine brightly, and we feel content and fulfilled. However, the moment we start comparing ourselves to others, our perspective shifts. We begin to focus on what we lack, what we're not doing as well as others, and what we're missing out on. Our minds become clouded with thoughts of inadequacy, and our self-worth takes a hit. Comparison is a thief that steals our joy, our confidence, and our sense of uniqueness. It's a game we can't win, because there will always be someone who seems better, more successful, or more accomplished. But here's the thing: comparison is not only unfair to ourselves, but it's also unfair to others. When we compare, we're not seeing the full picture. We're only seeing the highlight reel of someone else's life, and we're comparing it to our own behind-the-scenes footage. The truth is, everyone has their own struggles, challenges, and imperfections. Nobody is perfect, and nobody has it all together. But when we compare, we forget this. We forget that we're all on our own unique journeys, with our own strengths and weaknesses. Comparing your spouse and marriage to others can have a profoundly detrimental impact on your relationship, often leading to feelings of inadequacy and disconnection. Here are some detailed ways in which these comparisons can diminish the quality of your marriage: 1. *Fosters Discontentment*: When you constantly compare your spouse or marriage to another couple, it can breed an environment of dissatisfaction. This comparison often leads to unrealistic expectations, causing you to focus on perceived deficiencies in your union. Instead of celebrating what makes your relationship special, you may find yourself fixating on what you think is missing, leading to lingering discontentment and unhappiness. 2. *Damages Intimacy*: Intimacy is built on trust, acceptance, and connection. Comparisons can introduce feelings of resentment and competition between partners. When one spouse feels inadequate compared to others, it can create emotional walls, leading to an erosion of the intimate bond that is crucial for a healthy relationship. In this way, comparisons can foster isolation rather than connection. 3. *Creates Unrealistic Expectations*: Viewing another couple's relationship through a lens of comparison can warp your understanding of what a "perfect" marriage looks like. These unrealistic expectations can set you up for disappointment when your relationship fails to mirror the idyllic scenarios you see in others. Instead of recognizing that every marriage has its ups and downs, you may unjustly scrutinize your own relationship for imperfections. 4. *Undermines Gratitude*: When focus shifts to what others have, it can blur your appreciation for your own partnership. This tendency to compare can lead to taking your spouse and the positive aspects of your relationship for granted. Over time, this lack of gratitude can create a toxic outlook, diminishing the joy and fulfillment that should be at the core of your marriage. 5. *Encourages Criticism*: Engaging in comparisons can foster a mindset of critique, both towards yourself and your spouse. When you gauge your relationship against others, you may find yourself criticizing your partner’s actions or decisions, damaging their self-esteem and confidence. This can lead to a cycle of negative feedback, creating a hostile environment instead of a supportive one. 6. *Neglects Uniqueness*: Each marriage has a unique set of strengths, weaknesses, and experiences that define it. By comparing your marriage to others, you overlook the individuality of your own relationship and the special bond that exists between you and your spouse. This neglect can cause you to miss out on celebrating the qualities that make your partnership truly unique and meaningful. 7. *Fuels Anxiety and Insecurity*: Constantly measuring your relationship against others can create feelings of anxiety and insecurity. You might feel as if you are in a competitive race, striving to achieve ideals set by others rather than nurturing your own relationship. This can lead to stress and pressure, as you attempt to conform to standards that do not suit your unique situation. 8. *Misses the Bigger Picture*: Comparisons often cause you to lose sight of the most important aspects of your relationship: the love, commitment, and growth that you and your spouse experience together. By getting caught up in comparisons, you may overlook the daily acts of kindness, the shared experiences, and the supportive moments that shape a lasting partnership. To avoid the pitfalls of comparison, prioritize nurturing your unique relationship. Practice gratitude by regularly reflecting on the positive attributes of your marriage and celebrating your successes—both big and small. Remember that every relationship is a beautiful and imperfect journey, and comparisons can only minimize its potential. By embracing your own unique path, you can foster a deeper, more fulfilling connection with your spouse. So, what can we do instead of comparing? Here are a few suggestions: 1. Focus on your own journey and progress. 2. Celebrate your unique strengths and accomplishments. 3. Practice gratitude for what you have and who you are. 4. Embrace your imperfections and quirks – they make you, you! 5. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people who encourage and celebrate you. Remember, nothing is better and unique until you start to compare to others. So, let's try to focus on our own awesomeness, shall we?
In the journey of marriage, it's crucial not to allow the complexities of human philosophies and misguided beliefs to undermine the bond you share with your spouse. Misconceptions about gender roles and relationships can easily cloud your judgment and create obstacles in your partnership. Instead, turn to the timeless wisdom found in the words of God, who designed marriage as a sacred covenant. Let these divine teachings serve as a guiding light, illuminating the path for your relationship. Embrace the principles that foster love, respect, and understanding, ensuring that your marriage flourishes and thrives despite the challenges that may arise. By doing so, you strengthen your connection and build a foundation grounded in faith and truth.
SICKLE CELL ANEMIA: THE SILENT KILLER Dear Future Couples, As you embark on the significant journey towards marriage, it is vital to address an important yet frequently overlooked topic: the understanding of your genotype. Your genotype serves as a comprehensive representation of your genetic composition, influencing your individual traits, characteristics, and predisposition to certain health conditions. Within the context of marriage, awareness of your genotype is crucial to mitigate the potential transmission of genetic disorders, particularly Sickle Cell Anemia. Sickle Cell Anemia is a hereditary condition impacting haemoglobin, the protein responsible for oxygen transport in red blood cells. This disorder can result in considerable health challenges, including severe pain, fatigue, and potential organ damage. It is imperative for those planning to marry to ascertain their genotype. The rationale for this is clear: if one is a carrier of the Sickle Cell gene, there exists a risk of transmitting it to offspring. Envision constructing a life with a partner only to discover that there is a likelihood of genetic disorders being inherited by your children. Such a realization can be profoundly disheartening. Fortunately, understanding your genotype equips you with the information necessary to make informed decisions regarding your future and family planning. If identified as a carrier of the Sickle Cell gene, measures can be taken to diminish the risk of inheritance. Imagine living with a condition that makes every day a struggle and every breath a challenge. Imagine the pain, the fatigue, the constant fear of the unknown. This is the reality for millions of people around the world living with sickle cell anaemia. Sickle cell anaemia is a genetic disorder that affects the production of haemoglobin, a protein in red blood cells that carries oxygen to different parts of the body. In people with sickle cell anaemia, the haemoglobin is abnormal, causing the red blood cells to become misshapen and rigid. These sickle-shaped cells can get stuck in small blood vessels, blocking the flow of blood and oxygen to vital organs. The symptoms of sickle cell anaemia can be devastating. They include: - Severe pain episodes, known as sickle cell crises, which can occur without warning - Fatigue and weakness - Shortness of breath - Increased risk of infections - Damage to organs such as the kidneys, liver, and heart But there is hope. With proper management, people with sickle cell anaemia can lead active and fulfilling lives. Managing Sickle Cell Anemia Managing sickle cell anemia requires a comprehensive approach that includes: - Regular medical check-ups to monitor the condition and prevent complications - Pain management techniques, such as medication and alternative therapies like acupuncture and massage - Blood transfusions to increase the level of healthy red blood cells - Antibiotics to prevent infections - Folic acid supplements to help produce healthy red blood cells - Avoiding triggers that can cause sickle cell crises, such as stress, cold weather, and high altitudes Preventing Sickle Cell Anemia While there is no cure for sickle cell anaemia, it is possible to prevent it. Here are some ways to reduce the risk of passing on the condition to future generations: - Genetic counselling: If you have a family history of sickle cell anaemia, consider genetic counselling ng to determine your risk of passing on the condition. - Genetic testing: If you're planning to start a family, consider genetic testing to determine if you're a carrier of the sickle cell gene. - Preimplantation genetic diagnosis (PGD): This is a technique used in conjunction with in vitro fertilization (IVF) to test embryos for genetic disorders, including sickle cell anaemia. Creating Awareness Sickle cell anaemia is a condition that affects millions of people around the world, yet it remains largely misunderstood. Creating awareness is crucial to reducing the stigma associated with the condition and to promoting education and research. Here are some ways to create awareness: - Share your story: If you or someone you know has sickle cell anaemia, share your story to raise awareness and promote understanding. - Support organizations: Support organizations that provide education, research, and support for people with sickle cell anaemia. - Participate in awareness campaigns: Participate in awareness campaigns, such as World Sickle Cell Day, to raise awareness and promote education. Genotypes that match and don't match for marriage: In genetics, the genotype refers to the genetic makeup of an individual. When it comes to marriage, certain genotypes can increase the risk of passing on genetic disorders to offspring. Here's a breakdown of genotypes that match and don't match for marriage, specifically in the context of sickle cell anaemia: *Matching Genotypes (High Risk)* - *SS and SS*: Both individuals have sickle cell anaemia (HbSS). Their offspring will inherit the disease. - *SC and SC*: Both individuals have sickle cell disease (HbSC). Their offspring will inherit the disease. - *SS and SC*: One individual has sickle cell anaemia (HbSS), and the other has sickle cell disease (HbSC). Their offspring will inherit the disease. *Non-Matching Genotypes (Low Risk)* - *AA and AA*: Both individuals have normal haemoglobin (HbAA). Their offspring will not inherit sickle cell anaemia. - *AA and AS*: One individual has normal haemoglobin (HbAA), and the other is a carrier of the sickle cell gene (HbAS). Their offspring will not inherit sickle cell anaemia but may be carriers. - *AA and SS*: One individual has normal haemoglobin (HbAA), and the other has sickle cell anaemia (HbSS). Their offspring will not inherit sickle cell anaemia but may be carriers. *Carrier Genotypes (Moderate Risk)* - *AS and AS*: Both individuals are carriers of the sickle cell gene (HbAS). There is a 25% chance that each child will inherit the disease, a 50% chance that each child will be a carrier and a 25% chance that each child will have normal haemoglobin. - *AS and SS*: One individual is a carrier of the sickle cell gene (HbAS), and the other has sickle cell anaemia (HbSS). There is a 50% chance that each child will inherit the disease and a 50% chance that each child will be a carrier. It's essential to note that genetic counselling and testing can help individuals understand their risk of passing on genetic disorders to their offspring. Additionally, prenatal testing can detect genetic disorders in the fetus, allowing parents to make informed decisions about their pregnancy. Conclusion Sickle cell anaemia is a condition that requires attention, education, and awareness. By understanding the condition, its symptoms, and its management, we can work towards creating a world where people with sickle cell anaemia can lead active and fulfilling lives. Let's join hands to create awareness, promote education, and support research to find a cure for this devastating condition.
While love is a beautiful and powerful force, it’s crucial not to let it overshadow the important realities that come with marriage. Before making such a significant commitment, it's essential to establish a stable source of income. This financial stability can provide a strong foundation for your future together, helping to alleviate stress and ensuring that both partners can contribute to the household. Moreover, don't overlook the importance of a thorough medical check-up prior to marriage. Understanding your health status is vital, as it allows you to address any potential issues early on. Additionally, it’s imperative to ensure that your genotypes are compatible. This genetic compatibility is especially important if you plan to have children, as it can prevent certain hereditary conditions and ensure a healthier future for your family. Taking these precautionary steps can lead to a more successful and fulfilling union.
When you find yourself in love, it's crucial to establish boundaries. Doing so can illuminate potential warning signs and sharpen your awareness when situations begin to feel off. This proactive approach helps ensure that your relationship remains healthy and respectful.
PROVERBS 14:1 The message conveyed in Proverbs 14:1 offers profound insights into the pivotal role of a wise woman in fostering a secure and harmonious home environment. The verse states, "The wise woman builds her house," which underscores the idea that her diligent and thoughtful actions play a crucial role in promoting her family's overall well-being and stability. A wise woman invests time and energy into creating a nurturing atmosphere, where love, respect, and support flourish among family members. In contrast, the verse also serves as a cautionary reminder with its declaration that "the foolish pulls it down with her hands." This phrase suggests that unwise decisions—be they in the form of harmful words, selfish actions, or neglectful behaviors—can undermine and ultimately lead to the disintegration of a household. The contrast drawn here between wisdom and foolishness illustrates not just a binary choice, but rather a spectrum of influence that one's actions can exert on the overall family dynamic. The verse emphasizes the idea that the choices made by a woman, whether wise or foolish, can have a lasting impact on the stability and health of the home environment, highlighting the significant power that individual decisions hold within the framework of family life.
WRONG MINDSET Approaching marriage with the belief that in-laws are inherently negative or should be avoided is a misguided mindset. This perspective can lead to assumptions and conflicts that can negatively impact the relationship between spouses. When one enters into marriage harboring such views, it creates an atmosphere of mistrust and hostility, turning what should be a partnership built on love and support into a battleground of opposing factions. Instead of viewing in-laws as adversaries, it’s essential to recognize that they are part of your partner's life and, by extension, your life too. Engaging with them positively can strengthen family bonds and foster a more harmonious environment. A willingness to understand and embrace your in-laws can lead to healthier dynamics and ultimately enhance the foundation of your marriage. By nurturing openness and compassion rather than suspicion and defensiveness, couples can create a more peaceful and loving home.
Single Parenting: Common Causes and Insights Single parenting is a challenging yet increasingly prevalent situation faced by many individuals around the world. Understanding the underlying causes can shed light on the complexities involved. Here are some of the most common causes of single parenting, along with additional context for each: 1. Divorce or Separation. One of the most prevalent reasons for single parenting is the dissolution of a marriage. When couples divorce or separate, it often leads to one parent taking on the primary responsibility for raising the children. This transition can be emotionally taxing for everyone involved, and the non-custodial parent may experience difficulties in maintaining a meaningful relationship with the children, which can further complicate matters. 2. Unplanned Pregnancy. Unplanned pregnancies can occur in various circumstances and often lead to single parenting, particularly when the father is either uninvolved or not prepared to take on parental responsibilities. The sudden shift in life plans can be overwhelming for the expecting mother, requiring her to navigate the challenges of motherhood largely alone, often without adequate financial or emotional support. 3. Death of a Parent: The untimely death of a parent can leave the surviving parent to shoulder the responsibilities of raising children alone. This scenario brings about profound emotional pain and logistical challenges, as the surviving parent must cope with their grief while also providing stability and support for their children during a difficult time. 4. Abandonment: In some instances, a parent may choose to abandon the family, whether due to personal issues, a desire for independence, or an inability to commit to parenthood. This abandonment places an enormous burden on the remaining parent, who must fill the dual roles of caregiver and provider while dealing with the emotional fallout from the abandonment. 5. Domestic Violence: Victims of domestic violence may choose to leave their relationships to protect themselves and their children from harm. In seeking safety, they often find themselves in a position of single parenting, where they must focus on rebuilding their lives and ensuring a secure environment for their children, all while healing from the trauma of their past relationship. 6. Teenage Pregnancy: Teenage pregnancy can lead to single parenting when the young parent, often still in school and facing numerous challenges, finds themselves alone. The lack of support from the child’s father or family can exacerbate the situation, making it difficult for the young parent to complete their education or find stable employment. 7. Lack of Support: Some individuals may actively choose to raise their children alone due to a lack of support from their partner or their family. This can stem from various reasons, such as a partner’s refusal to be involved or a family that is unsupportive of their parenting choices. The resulting isolation can make parenting significantly more challenging. 8. Financial Constraints: Financial difficulties often play a critical role in the dynamics of single parenting. In situations where one parent cannot contribute financially—whether due to job loss, disability, or other factors—the burden of financial responsibility typically falls on the remaining parent, intensifying the stress of raising children alone. 9 Mental Health Issue: Mental health challenges, such as depression, anxiety, or other disorders, can affect a parent's ability to care for their children. In some cases, if one parent struggles significantly with their mental health, the other may take on the role of the primary caregiver or, conversely, may find themselves needing to step away to focus on their own well-being. . 10. Personal Choices: Some individuals may deliberately choose single parenthood through options such as adoption, surrogacy, or becoming a single mother by choice. This decision is often made after careful consideration and planning, allowing individuals to pursue their desire for children on their own terms, albeit with its own set of challenges. These factors highlight just a few of the common causes of single parenting. Each situation is unique, often shaped by a combination of societal, personal, and emotional influences. As such, the journey of single parenting can be both rewarding and demanding, requiring resilience and adaptability in the face of various challenges.