*Here are simple rules of dating a non-virgin:* 1) never ask about her bodycount. 2) if you do, pray she lies to you. 3) never ask about her last sex, when she last had sex. 4) never get to know any of men she slept with. Unless you took her from an active relationship. *What you do not know can not kill you.* But if you go looking, and asking around, make sure you have a clear plan on how to deal with the outcome. Do not go poking into her past, and then not be mentally ready for the outcome, and emotionally ready to deal with the fall out. That is stupidity. Because, you'll never be okay with the reveal if they turn out negative.