One of the biggest motivators of disrespectfulness in a woman, and consequently influencing the behaviour of children towards their father is *"failure to provide."* If the man is not able to meet all his obligations. Or through bad leadership, he's failed to get the woman to learn to chip in and take some burden off him during his low times, Which has allowed the woman to accumulate too much money to which she thinks she can live on her own. The wife suffers such problems. There's no satisfaction a woman draws from being disrespectful. Yet it is an irresistible pill. Financial leadership is a faculty that needs a man to be in control of. Failure to, leads to a woman's stronger voice and a man's own, diminishing. And this happens quite naturally. Let's not pretend, power comes from possessing something of value over the head of those in your presence. And money, hence provision is one of them. This is a natural state of affairs. An imbecile can be considered a leader as long as he has money, and a genius will not draw a single pigeon if he doesn't have a corn seed. So, a woman being disrespectful is a natural and obvious thing that is expected to happen when a man loses his ability to provide. Hence this reminder to women. You may not necessarily be disrespectful because of those things you are angry about. You are being disrespectful because he's not providing. Because I can tell you, had he been the main provider with steady income flow, had he been the one on whom you depend solely, you'd have been a little more humble. That's just how it works. You think you are angry that he comes home late, that he talks at you anyhow, that he's probably cheating, that he's never home enough, that he goes out with wrong men, that he's not spending enough time with children, that he's not spending money on you enough, that he's not prioritising your marriage, that he's being selfish, that he's keeping money from you, that he's not including you in financial decisions, that he's not listening to you, that he's always judging you, that he's ignoring your own people, that he's now allowing you purse your carer, that he's not financing your adventures, etc .... and all these angers make you hate him, and therefore make you talk back at him disrespectfully and therefore make you induce your children into disrespecting their father too... *"How do you do that?"* In his absence: 1) quarreling at thing using his name 2) backbiting him to the children when he does something wrong 3) telling the children how he doesn't care and you're the one laboring for them In his presence: 1) exchanging words with him while the children are watching 2) saying something and turning to your children to get agreement node 3) using your children as alibi 4) recounting his mistreatment in the presence of the kids 5) serving him after the reasonably aged children Etc.. But no, you are angry, and all because he's unable to take his seat at the top end of the table. Because circumstances have made you assume equality or himself has failed to be the reason you look up to him. Other factors that may make a man lose his place is his mistakes for which you have forgiven him. Such a cheating. Regardless, know that your disrespectfulness is borne out of you becoming powerful to another level or his inability to provide as always. This awareness should help you control yourself. It doesn't have to turn out like that. Being aware, you take precautions not to become the toxic wife simply because your man has lost his place. Because he will regain his place. You will not want it to be awkward when he does. And you'll not excuse it with "it's in my nature". Neither will it all heal with the children.