If you're entering a relationship or already in one, it's important you give it your best to slow down –to observe the person you're with carefully. The reason I'm sharing this is because… …some people are using others as a relief for their heart pain, which is becoming alarming. We have people that their relationship ended in a painful way, but… …instead of them taking time to heal and learn from their mistakes… …they would rush into a new relationship just to competition with their ex. They will desperately hunt for a replacement to "pepper" their ex. You've noticed this too, right? Imagine young people entering relationships with a heavy pain in their hearts – hearts filled with pain, not love. Imagine them going into relationships with the aim of "peppering" their ex, who dumped them in pain – is this wise? Imagine them going into relationships just because they want people to know that their relationship had ended and they don't want to be alone – is this not f00lishness? Imagine them going into relationships with the aim of “taking revenge on a gender” because of what their ex did to them – is this not w!ckedness? Why are they not considering the innocent person who doesn't know anything about their loss and pain? Do you see some level of lack of self love but more of selfishness, self-centredness and w!ckedness here? Okay…that aside… Let's imagine what an innocent fellow would go through being in a relationship with someone that their ex just dump… What do you think the innocent person will experience in such a relationship? Pain, of course! The unhealed person will transfer their pain to the innocent person. The unhealed person will misbehaving in the relationship and inflicting pain. This is the reason why we are having more stories of people who would go into new relationship (some would even get married) but, after while we will hear that they are till maintaining connections with (communicating and seeing) their ex. Some would even be bold enough to be comparing their innocent partner with their ex. This is one f00lish and w!cked behavior among young people today. And, it is destroying the relationship sphere at large… As if that's not bad enough… I wonder why some people will know that they've had a bad experience, they are in pains, and they won't chose to go heal, yet they will still go after another innocent person… I wonder why some people will know that someone is in a relationship or married already, yet they will still accept to have an affair with the person. Is this not lack of self-love and wickedness? Any that is discussion is for another time. For now, I will tell you this; be careful out there. Ensure you're not being used as a relief for someone's pain or as a replacement for someone else. Don't let anyone do this to you. > AnkundaOmunyankore counsellor love square #lovesquare Stay safe!