Just subcontinent things. Some Women want their fathers to spend lavishly because it's a "once-in-a-lifetime" event. some grooms feel compelled to overspend because their friends did. But what's the point? Guests come, eat, and criticize: "The food was bad, there was no mutton, the dessert was not good." Some even bring their whole family and give a tiny gift. Others seem to wait for your downfall, rather than celebrating your happiness.