I do not know why you women find it "difficult" to chase away a man who's wooing you that you are not interested in. The easiest way to keep a man very far from you is if you behave like you know it all. Never allowing him to win an argument, and never changing your mind when you think of something while he's proposing an alternative. Most effective one actually is: keep trashing his point of view, or explain yourself out until he submits and says *"you are right"*. Always be the smart one and make him feel stupid in his opinion or as if his opinions don't move you. You'll never hear from him again! I guarantee you. This can also be applied in marriage. If you are tired of your husband and you want him to start keeping away from you, just start being argumentative and making sure you win most of them. Or even when you accept his point of view, let him know that you are agreeing with him just to avoid arguments. You'll have the best space you can ever want in your marriage. Dale Carnegie in his book *"How To Win Friends & Influence People"* says: _"You can't win an argument, because if you lose, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it still. Why? Well, you will feel fine when you win. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior, you hurt his pride, insult his intelligence, his judgment, and his self-respect, and he'll resent your triumph._ At first, he is resentful about the triumph, but over time, he'll become resentful of the person who constantly makes him feel loss. You'll hardly hear a word from him again, and there is your reward, the space. Be careful though, not to turn this against him. Not to gaslight him when he doesn't do the things he's supposed to be doing due to the space you have earned. If he can no longer perform his duties that require connection, affection, and closeness of your souls, be careful not to gaslight him. Otherwise, you'll probably destroy him more.