If your boyfriend, or husband is doing some of these things, you need to tighten your belt. No one is perfect, but there is a certain level of imperfection that we are not ordered to accept. We choose to accept them voluntarily. When we do, after seeing the signs, we'll be unkind to blame them again. A man who is prominent at doing just half or a quarter of these things is not going to give you a very good marriage experience. Vet him extensively! - Lacks honesty in his actions. You are almost always catching him in a lie. - So many secrets and "never mind"s about his affairs, offering no accountability for his actions. - Makes promises and has no problem not keeping them. But will come with a perfect excuse why he did not do what he promised. Always. He always has a very good reason. This man is very dangerous. - Flirts with women whether you are there or not. - You'll never know what he's feeling, very nonchalant and doesn't really care to dig deep into how you are feeling. - He has a history of infidelity by himself, or by his family - At least a quarter of his family members have evidence of infidelity, such children born outside marriage. - History of polygamy in their family, and he's proud to profess if. This may not be problem, but if you are not a thumbs up to this possibility mindset, please pass on this man. - Objectifies women, making derogatory and disrespectful comments towards them without any cause. To him, women are by design bad people. - Dodges being committed to something, or putting a label on your relationship with him. - Says one thing and does the exact opposite of it. Clear, his word are not his bond. - It's never a good idea, but you know if you touch his phone, you'll have more than just a reprimand. - Even in your presence, they're always on phone. - Has a Tiktok and Snapchat presence, even when he doesn't really do much activity on his account. - Cares less whether or not he is or you are sexually satisfied by the sex. - Very good at manipulating a situation to be your fault. - Flirting around with other women on social media. - Keeps communication with the very person he's promised to discontinue Etc.... You always choose your bottle, and drink your poison with a peaceful heart! You'll never find a man without at least 3 of these red flags. That is why love is sweet. You see their flaws, and still accept them anyway. That sacrifice, is the reason why you feel what you feel. Good luck choosing your chalice of suffer, or throwing it away!