If you're going for an arranged marriage, the first golden rule is: never marry in a rush. Always insist on a few months of courtship before the wedding, no matter how many excuses the other side makes. Use that period to watch for these red flags: 1. Emotional coldness: They talk just for the sake of it. They’ll answer questions briefly but won’t engage emotionally. No curiosity about you, no excitement about the wedding, and no conversations about the future. 2. Guarded phone behavior: They never leave their phone unattended. It’s usually kept face-down, with read receipts and last seen turned off, and chat histories cleared. They keep checking their phone even during your brief meetings. 3. Zero enthusiasm for wedding planning: They show no interest, leave decisions to their family, and avoid discussions on dates, clothes, or rituals. Even talking about the honeymoon seems to bore or annoy them. 4. Uninterested in you or your family: They don’t ask about your likes, dislikes, goals, or daily life. They forget what you’ve shared and avoid asking about your parents, siblings, or relatives, or meeting them. 5. Mysterious absences: They disappear for a day or two with weak or inconsistent excuses. No genuine emergencies, just sudden silence. If you ask where they were, they get annoyed. 6. Emotionally absent in person, active online: In real life, they seem distant, awkward, or disinterested. Yet online, they’re engaging, liking, commenting on one particular person’s posts, or posting cryptic quotes that hint at sadness or longing. 7. Uncomfortable with intimacy: Even simple gestures like holding hands, taking photos together, or giving compliments make them uncomfortable. There’s no visible affection, not even the early-stage awkward kind. 8. Hides the relationship online: They’re active on social media but avoid mentioning or posting about the engagement. They won’t tag you, claiming they’re “private” or not into social media, despite clear evidence to the contrary. 9. Their friends act strange around you: First, they avoid letting you meet their friends, but if it happens, the friends behave unusually quiet, cold, or too formal, as if they know something but can’t say it. Remember: breaking an engagement is far easier emotionally, legally and socially than undoing a marriage.