Here I want to express , my own personal experience, I told you my one closely related member has no sense of kitchen organising , setting table, and reorganising utensils after cooking. Trash was on the sink and she has by default in a mode for not caring for others. She is a potato coach and loves sitting . And I am by default an irritant person with others being so odd and neutral to human serving. We both can not leave each other ,we are bound closely. I tried your advice ,I start praying may Allah bless me to shun away from her sher and bless me her kher. Literally I feel a change not only is she a little bit polite ,my own inner strength is increasing . I am finding her inner child ,who needs appreciation and rewards for the little acts. Pray ,tadbeeh effects so powerfully.