Good evening admin lets call me the *realist* , and thank you for sharing such a heartfelt, deeply moving story about the lady and her husband🙏 Kati to be frank that beautiful intelligent lady just described the the raw, often unseen side of marriage — where vows are lived, not just spoken.🤌📌❣️🫂 So as a realist am gonna be straightforward 😂😂😂😂🤌🫴 *Kati here is the question What’s Going On With Your Husband?* Your husband is not a bad man. In fact, he's a good man trust me 🫴🤌📌 his just trapped in a dangerous expectation of masculinity. He was taught — either by culture, society, or upbringing — that a man must provide at all costs, and if he can’t, he has failed.🥺😭😭😭😞 So now, when the one person he wanted to protect (you) is in a stronger financial position, he feels his identity slipping. His worth — in his mind — was tied to how well he could provide. And though you see partnership, he sees proof that he's no longer "enough." This isn't ego as much as it is emotional fear masked as pride. In his silence, he's screaming: “If I let you help, what am I worth? My dear *Men Are Raised to Withstand, Not to Receive* Most men are never taught how to ask for help without shame.🫴🤌 They are taught to give. To hustle. To build. To bear the weight. But never to collapse into the arms of someone who loves them and say: “I’m tired.” And when men break, they often break quietly — behind bills, behind silence, behind stubbornness. It's not that your husband doesn’t appreciate what you do. Deep down, he knows. But his manhood, as he was taught, won’t allow him to say: “Thank you for saving me.” And that’s why men sometimes die younger 🫴😭😭😭😭— not just from the work, but from the weight of trying to prove they don’t need anyone. Not even their wives.📌🤌🫴 yah kimanyi its tuff truth but kindly take it am a *realist 🙏🏽 *so this is My Advice to You*🫴📌 1. Don’t stop helping — but start helping more openly. Let him see you without disguises. At some point, he needs to grow into a man who can share the load, not just carry it.🤷‍♂️ 2. Start the real conversation. Not in a blaming way.🙏🧎🫴 Maybe something like: “I know you want to protect us. But what protects me the most is knowing that you can lean on me too. We’re not here to impress each other. We’re here to carry each other.”🌚🤷‍♂️ 3. Include him in decisions. Men don’t mind help when they feel involved. Maybe say: “Let’s plan how we’ll handle next month together. I’d love your input.” This way, he leads with you — not behind you.🙏📌🤌🫴 But i must say I admire u alot 🙏 and the way u helped him the tricks ( frome the money in the clothes to depositing money )🙏😭😭😭🥺 its wow honestly Until then, keep walking in love, but never forget: submission doesn’t mean silence, and helping doesn’t mean hiding. Real love shares the truth — even the hard truths. Kwangaliza mikisa and all the best🙏🤌🛐 dony forget to include God I remain the *realist*