Her Confession

Her Confession

5/26/2025, 9:53:24 AM

Hyy admin Am in a dilemma though not sure if it is but here it goes....I have been in this relationship for over 4years n all seemed well until guy started acting insecure to the point of asking me to get rid of all male contacts,moving with males became a crime😂😂 even though it was pure friendship.it got weird wen I was asked to choose btn him and friends at campus. This is someone I thought would understand that as a student, I have interactions with different people and still remain faithful cause why waste 4years with someone and cheat......to make matters worse, his lies have explanations and reasons which gave me more reasons to walk away just for peace of mind....why would anyone deceive about his girlfriend having a miscarriage just to get money for his own gain yet I have never even gotten pregnant🥹🥹...meanwhile this is someone I had given in my all for but I recently decided to do away with the drama cause what's typed here is just the introduction. I know we all make mistakes and some people will judge me but I am tired of forgiving and staying back so I wld rather forgive and leave because I have been hurt several times but not anymore....what would you do if you were in my shoes

Her Confession

5/25/2025, 6:00:56 PM

Admin about the lady who was abandoned when she was 2. Well it's unfortunate that I share the same past ..but u know what, this pain can heal . I was as well abandoned in a polygamous family...am a second born girl among 5 . When my mother left us ...I was 10 and the youngest was 2 years , she was girl too . we're approaching *15years* now without hearing from her. I've grown into a woman now . Isaiah 49;15 says‭ [15] “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! Yes our mothers forgot us but Jesus has us ...I have found a parent in Christ . The pain is a lot I had to mother my siblings when I was also a child, abused by my elder brothers ( polygamous family) ....many untold stories....wc u can't believe I healed from. What a friend we have in Jesus! Be encouraged my dear.

Her Confession

6/1/2025, 7:41:32 PM

Good evening admin Why don't men accept that sometimes they can also fail in life? Ego is killing my husband. Let me narrate to you what's going on. When my husband was my boyfriend, he made it very clear that he was going to take care of me. I wasn’t working. He was working in the mines and was able to afford a certain lifestyle. I had just completed campus in 2023 and was volunteering in the same company where he was. That was where we met. After my service, I wasn’t made permanent staff, so I had to come home and start looking for a job. During those hard times, this guy was there for me, giving me some amount every month and buying gifts as and when he could. I stayed home for over a year and a half without a job, but he kept providing and ensured I didn’t need anything. Sometimes, he even sent money to my parents when I wasn’t aware. One night while spending the weekend at his place, he said, “Let’s get married.” I said, “Yeah, after I’ve found a job.” He responded, “There are more days after marriage. You can still look for a job and land one.” When I discussed it with my parents, they agreed. They didn’t care that I didn’t have a job so, in August 2014, we got married. People say marriage comes with certain blessings because those who tie the knot in the presence of God find favor with Him. Just one month after marriage, I found a job that paid me well enough to put my life in balance. You would expect that my husband would leave some of the financial burdens for me to handle, but no. He did everything. He said, “You started making money not too long ago. Save. Invest. Someday, it will come in handy." We had our first child a year later, and when our first child was only nine months old, I got pregnant again and gave birth. The third child came a year after the second. Responsibilities shot up. We needed more financial power. It was during that time my husband's company lost their contract with the mines. He later left the company because all was not well. His next job doesn't pay well but he still wants to carry all the financial burdens. Is it ego? Is it wrong upbringing? Is that what it means to be a man? You look at him and see all is not well so I devised a way of helping out without letting him know. I started by finding money in his pocket. Every time I washed his clothes, I called to tell him I’d found money in his pocket. You could see happiness light up on his face instantly. He would ask, “Really, how much?” Before I could say how much, he would come and snatch the money from me and start counting it. He needed support, but pride wouldn’t allow him to ask for it from his wife. It got to a point where the money-in-the-pocket thing became suspicious. So, I’d pay the utilities and tell him, “The light bill came. I didn’t want to disturb you, so I picked money from your wallet and paid.” He wouldn’t ask how and when; all he wanted to know was that it was he who paid the bill. Paying rent was something he didn’t want me anywhere close to. He said, “A man provides a home for the family, and any man who can’t do that can’t call himself a man.” That year, things were tough. I was patiently waiting for him to ask me for help. He didn’t. The landlord came around once. It hadn’t happened before that the landlord would come around asking us when we would pay rent. I knew he wasn’t going to ask for help, so the next day, I looked for a vendor and sent him mobile money. When he came home that night, he complained to me, “Someone had mistakenly sent me money on my phone. I thought it was a mistake, but till now, nobody has called to ask about the money.” I told him, “It happens. If it’s a mistake, the owner will call, so don’t worry.” Days later, I sent someone to put money in his bank account. Surprisingly, he never told me about the bank account transaction. I was waiting to hear him say, “Can you imagine my bank account has money I don’t know where it came from?” We never had that discussion. It was that same day that he paid the rent. Men and pride. When I was young, I wondered why men often die before their wives. Because of my husband, I know why. They don’t ask for help. They want to carry all the load until one day, they break down under the very load they thought they could carry without help. How long can I continue playing tricks just because I don’t want to hurt his ego? Once in a while, even magicians run out of tricks. He’ll learn to accept my help by force because I’ve been raised to give help. It doesn't mean I'm trying to usurp the authority of my man. I'll give and then submit and then continue being a wife. That's my role in his life and no wealth or gold can change that.

Her Confession

6/1/2025, 7:23:05 PM

Good morning admin, I have a situation eating me up and I need advise. My mom had some land, and I decided to build on it for her. My husband wasn’t aware because of his behavior when it comes to how I spend my money. I earn more, and because of that, we split a lot of things around here down the middle. When there’s extra to pay, he looks to me. I hardly complain. Yes, sometimes I argue, but he can be petty, so I try not to argue about money with him. When he found out about the project I’m doing for my mother, he got angry because he had asked me for money for our project, and I said I didn’t have any. All of a sudden, he calls me a liar and secretive and believes I’m building castles under the sea without his knowledge. There was no reason to apologize, but I did. Now, he’s convincing me to stop my mother’s project so we can focus on ours and bring my mother to live with us. My mom won’t live with us, no matter what. And that aside, I don’t see why I should stop something I’m doing for the woman who gave birth to me just because my husband said I should. I’ve explained things to him. I still do what I’ve always been doing around the house. He just wants more of my money for our project and also the household expenses—all in the name of, “You earn more. Now, my mom’s project is on hold while we debate our internal issues. Is this fair, the way my husband is treating me? Every little issue, he brings this matter up and talks about it with anguish, as if it’s the worst thing a wife could do to a husband. Hmmm

Her Confession

5/25/2025, 5:33:54 PM

Lady of 20, I strongly advise not to accept or eat a man's money if you won't love them and especially if they have specifically declared their intentions...Now wat really do you expect of the future of a relationship with a 34 year old? They hate playing around, so why wd u expect more money if u have disappointed them. Kindly apologize to Him for wasting his time and move on , for your own peace and security. However if u want to pursue a relationship with him ,then mention your conditions ,the HIV test and BLA BLA ....and if he agrees then congratulations.

Her Confession

6/1/2025, 7:24:09 PM

Hello Admin. Goodmorning, I want someone who has some connections to connect me to jobs abroad please. I think Uganda isn't working for me. Not even an interview for the times I have applied for jobs. I want to go work abroad. Even if a kadama, I have a degree in Procurement but things are so hard😭 Some help please

Her Confession

6/2/2025, 7:12:03 AM

Good evening admin lets call me the *realist* , and thank you for sharing such a heartfelt, deeply moving story about the lady and her husband🙏 Kati to be frank that beautiful intelligent lady just described the the raw, often unseen side of marriage — where vows are lived, not just spoken.🤌📌❣️🫂 So as a realist am gonna be straightforward 😂😂😂😂🤌🫴 *Kati here is the question What’s Going On With Your Husband?* Your husband is not a bad man. In fact, he's a good man trust me 🫴🤌📌 his just trapped in a dangerous expectation of masculinity. He was taught — either by culture, society, or upbringing — that a man must provide at all costs, and if he can’t, he has failed.🥺😭😭😭😞 So now, when the one person he wanted to protect (you) is in a stronger financial position, he feels his identity slipping. His worth — in his mind — was tied to how well he could provide. And though you see partnership, he sees proof that he's no longer "enough." This isn't ego as much as it is emotional fear masked as pride. In his silence, he's screaming: “If I let you help, what am I worth? My dear *Men Are Raised to Withstand, Not to Receive* Most men are never taught how to ask for help without shame.🫴🤌 They are taught to give. To hustle. To build. To bear the weight. But never to collapse into the arms of someone who loves them and say: “I’m tired.” And when men break, they often break quietly — behind bills, behind silence, behind stubbornness. It's not that your husband doesn’t appreciate what you do. Deep down, he knows. But his manhood, as he was taught, won’t allow him to say: “Thank you for saving me.” And that’s why men sometimes die younger 🫴😭😭😭😭— not just from the work, but from the weight of trying to prove they don’t need anyone. Not even their wives.📌🤌🫴 yah kimanyi its tuff truth but kindly take it am a *realist 🙏🏽 *so this is My Advice to You*🫴📌 1. Don’t stop helping — but start helping more openly. Let him see you without disguises. At some point, he needs to grow into a man who can share the load, not just carry it.🤷‍♂️ 2. Start the real conversation. Not in a blaming way.🙏🧎🫴 Maybe something like: “I know you want to protect us. But what protects me the most is knowing that you can lean on me too. We’re not here to impress each other. We’re here to carry each other.”🌚🤷‍♂️ 3. Include him in decisions. Men don’t mind help when they feel involved. Maybe say: “Let’s plan how we’ll handle next month together. I’d love your input.” This way, he leads with you — not behind you.🙏📌🤌🫴 But i must say I admire u alot 🙏 and the way u helped him the tricks ( frome the money in the clothes to depositing money )🙏😭😭😭🥺 its wow honestly Until then, keep walking in love, but never forget: submission doesn’t mean silence, and helping doesn’t mean hiding. Real love shares the truth — even the hard truths. Kwangaliza mikisa and all the best🙏🤌🛐 dony forget to include God I remain the *realist*

Her Confession

6/2/2025, 7:11:48 AM

Hey admin Men need appreciation... In everything that woman will do to help her man, let her first appreciate then, let her show him that by giving she's not supporting the family but she's just being the helper that the lord placed beside him It's all I can say

Her Confession

5/25/2025, 5:36:09 PM

Hello Admin, I don’t usually share things like this, but today my heart feels heavy… In an interview, I opened up about something very personal: My first ever betrayal came from my mother. She left me when I was just 2 years old. I was too young to understand what was happening, but the emptiness she left behind has followed me all my life. Watching other children grow up in their mother’s arms, while I had to grow up without mine, left a pain I can’t fully describe. That kind of wound… it doesn’t always show on the outside, but it shapes who you become. I’ve spent years trying to heal, trying to be strong, trying not to let that little girl inside me feel forgotten. And even now, there are days when I still ask, “Why did you leave me?” To anyone carrying childhood pain, feeling abandoned, or trying to heal from something you didn’t cause — please know you’re not alone. Your story matters. Your feelings are valid. And you deserve love that stays. Thank you for reading my truth. Maybe, just maybe, someone out there needed to hear it today.

Her Confession

5/25/2025, 3:27:08 PM

Hi admin I have this old man am 20 and his 34 but he lied that his 27🤣, ok so it all started well, he used to come every time at my work place giving me gifts and constant dates🫠, he used to give me mob money even without asking but the day he thought he was to hit it I refused because we had just met and imagine we had not yet done HIV test but for him he wasn’t so concerned 😟 so when I refused him to hit he changed behaviors , nga I have to first ask for money and on that he will take time so I decided to chill him cause I knew he would do hit and run 😁so in my comfort zone this zaddy came back Mbu spending and I chucked him but this oldy now shouts at me as if am his mate🤔😅, I seriously want to leave him but he knows where I work from, where I live he might do something bad😩 what should I do