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6/4/2025, 3:36:12 PM

I hope that when God gives me the person I’ve been praying for, I’m ready — not just to receive them, but to recognize the kind of love I asked for. I hope I’ve grown enough to match the heart I’ve been asking Him to send. That I’ve healed what needed healing, let go of what no longer serves me, and learned to love myself the way I want someone else to love me. Because the truth is, a blessing can only bloom in the right soil — and I want to be that soil, rooted in faith, patience, and peace. I hope that when they arrive, I’m not still doubting whether I’m worthy of good things. I want to meet them with open hands, not closed fists from the pain of my past. I want to be present, grateful, and gentle — not just with them, but with myself. I’ve prayed not just for someone who stays, but someone who feels like home. And when God finally brings us together, I pray I’m everything I was meant to be — so I can love them the way I always hoped someone would love me.

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6/4/2025, 9:53:47 AM

An open letter to those who overthink almost everything: Hey, how are you doing? I know it’s exhausting being someone who overthinks all the time. It’s not something you asked for. It just sort of happens, right? Your mind keeps running even when you want it to slow down. You start playing out all these possible scenarios in your head, even if nothing’s actually going on yet. The worst part is, you know some of those things don’t even make sense, but they still sit with you anyway. You try to silence the noise, but somehow they find a way back in. I see how hard you’re trying, and I want you to know you’re not alone in this. Breathe. Your mind is a place where so many thoughts simultaneously pop up, but that doesn’t mean you’ll be stuck in it forever. I know you’ve got dreams, goals, and things you’re working toward. Keep your eyes on them, but also remember that life doesn’t always go according to plan, and that’s okay. It’s a powerful thing to start letting go of the thought that you need to control everything. When you begin to accept that some things are just out of your hands, you make space for peace. I know this isn’t easy. But I believe in you. You’re not here to have it all figured out. You’re here to live. I hope, little by little, you learn to enjoy life without carrying so many “what ifs.” Be kind to yourself. You are more than your thoughts and worries. You’re exactly where you need to be right now. You are not lost in the what-could-have-beens, but living in the moment. You’re going to be okay. You’ve got this.

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6/5/2025, 6:43:30 PM

You are allowed to say no without feeling guilty. Your time, energy, and peace of mind are valuable, and protecting them is not selfish—it’s necessary. Saying no doesn’t make you unkind or unhelpful; it means you understand your limits and are choosing to honor them. Whether it’s turning down extra work, declining a social event, or setting boundaries with someone close to you, your "no" is a valid and healthy response. Guilt often creeps in because we fear disappointing others or being perceived as rude, but it's important to remember that saying yes at the expense of your well-being isn’t kindness—it’s self-neglect. You don't owe anyone an explanation beyond what you're comfortable sharing. Giving yourself permission to say no empowers you to say yes to what truly matters. Prioritizing yourself isn't a weakness—it's a form of self-respect.

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6/5/2025, 6:43:20 PM

I saw a quote that said, “Being single isn’t a time to be looking for love—it’s a time to be learning to love yourself.” And I felt that. There’s so much pressure to be in a relationship, as if being single means something is missing. But the truth is, this season can be one of the most powerful and freeing times in your life. It’s where you get to know who you are without compromise, without distraction—just you, fully present with yourself. That quote reminded me that being single isn’t a waiting room for something better. It’s a chance to build a life you love on your own terms, to grow deeper in self-respect, and to discover what truly fulfills you. Love will come, if and when it’s right—but until then, there’s nothing incomplete about standing whole on your own.

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6/4/2025, 6:20:37 AM

Maybe your journey was never meant to be about loving another person. Maybe it was about finding your way back to yourself after all the ways you forgot who you were. It’s easy to lose pieces of yourself when you're always giving — your time, your energy, your heart. You confuse their needs for your purpose, their silence for your failure. But maybe the lesson was learning that you don’t need someone else to validate your worth. Maybe love was always meant to begin within, to teach you how to stand whole, even when alone. There’s a kind of freedom in realizing your healing isn’t tied to someone staying or leaving. You begin to understand that not every chapter requires a co-star — some pages are meant to be written in solitude, inked with your growth, your strength, your rediscovery. This journey might have felt lonely at times, but it brought you back to the parts of you that were never truly lost, only quiet. And now, with your own light leading the way, you finally see: maybe it was never about finding love in someone else, but about becoming the love you always needed.

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6/5/2025, 6:43:24 PM

Some days, it feels like you haven’t done anything at all, and that’s okay. Life isn’t a nonstop race where every moment must be filled with productivity or achievement. Sometimes, simply showing up and getting through the day is enough. Rest and stillness are just as important as action—they give your mind and body space to recharge and reset. Feeling unproductive doesn’t mean you’re failing; it means you’re human. Remember, growth isn’t always visible, and progress doesn’t always come in big leaps. What feels like a quiet or “wasted” day might be exactly what you need to prepare for what’s next. Be gentle with yourself on those slow days. Honor the pauses, the small moments of peace, and the time you give yourself to simply be. Tomorrow is a fresh start, and your worth is never defined by how much you do but by who you are.

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6/5/2025, 6:43:43 PM

You are allowed to say no without feeling guilty. Your time, energy, and peace of mind are valuable, and protecting them is not selfish—it’s necessary. Saying no doesn’t make you unkind or unhelpful; it means you understand your limits and are choosing to honor them. Whether it’s turning down extra work, declining a social event, or setting boundaries with someone close to you, your "no" is a valid and healthy response. Guilt often creeps in because we fear disappointing others or being perceived as rude, but it's important to remember that saying yes at the expense of your well-being isn’t kindness—it’s self-neglect. You don't owe anyone an explanation beyond what you're comfortable sharing. Giving yourself permission to say no empowers you to say yes to what truly matters. Prioritizing yourself isn't a weakness—it's a form of self-respect.

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6/5/2025, 6:43:38 PM

Someday can’t wait forever. It’s easy to tell ourselves we’ll start when things settle down, when we feel more confident, or when the timing is perfect. But the truth is, life rarely hands us the ideal conditions. The longer we wait, the more distant our goals become—blurred by routine, fear, and self-doubt. “Someday” starts to look like a safe place, but really, it’s just a delay in disguise. If you want change, you have to move now—imperfectly, maybe even clumsily, but forward all the same. Small steps today are worth more than perfect plans never acted on. Action builds momentum, and momentum builds belief. The path you want isn’t going to appear fully paved; you’ll lay each stone as you go. So stop waiting for the right moment—this is it.

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6/4/2025, 6:21:09 AM

No one really knows how hard it was. The late nights you cried quietly. The days you felt like giving up but still got out of bed. The times you kept everything together even when it felt like you were falling apart. People see the smile but not the storm it took to get there. So yeah maybe you’re not where you want to be yet but you’ve come a long way. And that matters. You should be proud of how far you’ve come even if no one else sees the full picture. You saved yourself in ways you don’t even realize. That’s something worth holding on to.

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6/4/2025, 6:20:31 AM

Being single isn’t a gap to be filled—it’s a season full of strength, discovery, and growth. It’s a time to deepen your relationship with yourself, to chase your passions, and to build a life that feels whole on its own. You don’t need to wait for someone else to complete you; you are already complete. This is your chance to learn what truly makes you happy, without compromise, without distraction—just you, choosing yourself every single day. There’s power in standing alone and still feeling fulfilled. Being single doesn’t mean being alone—it means having the space to grow, to heal, and to set your own standards. The right love will never require you to shrink or settle, and the time you spend single is never wasted. It’s an investment in your future, in your peace, and in the kind of life and love you truly deserve. Celebrate it—this chapter matters just as much as any other.