Fashi Mindset

Fashi Mindset

5/18/2025, 4:37:51 PM

*The True Measure of Worth* The choice facing us each day? Becoming either a positive or negative force in others' lives. Simple. I remind myself constantly about "metrics that matter" to me, the unfashionable life performance indicators that form the DNA of good conduct and build genuine self-esteem. Tim Lebon suggests tracking things like smiles given, thanks received, and courtesies extended. To this list, I add these nearly invisible acts of kindness: the number of unexpected supportive texts/notes sent, the frequency of speaking highly of people when they're not present, the count of paths quietly cleared for others. When you make regular deposits into this store of micro-kindness, you actually get that thing everyone wants but seems to not really have—inner peace. We dey here.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ 🙌🏾

Fashi Mindset

5/29/2025, 11:17:36 AM

“I am too old to be governed by the fear of dumb people.” Eish. Play those lyrics in your head as often as possible, o. When it gets easier, play them more than once a day. As needed. Because truth. A character said this on a show I watched on a long flight back from East Africa, and it rocked me. Nice and slow. Because this is a thing for me. There’s a lot of dumbassery out there. Especially from so-called smart people. On the internets. On the socials. So. I make it a point to avoid swimming with pigs. They can’t swim. And they’ll drag you under, drowning you in BS and dumbassery. What makes me come alive? Verbal and mental jiu-jitsu with the curious. The witty. The sharp. The ones doing real work. Building. Challenging. Asking the questions others are afraid to. Getting knocked down and getting right back up. I’m here for those devastating exchanges—mind bombs that leave dents in lazy assumptions. And lazy assumptions aplenty. Quiet, gritty sparring with ideas that need to be pummeled by reality. The patient yet strenuous group struggle to escape the chokehold of a viciously wicked problem. Battling the insurmountable obstacles of resistance, mine and others. That’s how you avoid being governed by the fear of dumb people. When you engage the engageable. So, what makes *you* come alive?

Fashi Mindset

2/16/2025, 11:41:32 PM

Until something is chasing you, nothing is chasing you #fashisunday

Fashi Mindset

2/27/2025, 3:10:44 PM

This 👆🏾has saved my life on so many occasions. In fact, I do react, all the time…just only to myself. I write the clap back email, I tap furiously right after the antagonizing text, but I dont hit send. I step away, and let it hang. If it’s a convo…I do my best to try and pause, very hard to do, but necessary. 99% of the time my response is nowhere close to what my reaction was. Could save your life too.